Nerdy Millennial

Top Menu

  • About
  • Contact
  • Write For Us

Main Menu

  • Career
    • Entrepreneurship
    • Blogging
      • Social Media
      • SEO and Keyword Research
  • College
  • Arts & Culture
  • Technology
  • Health and Fitness
    • Nutrition
    • Recipes
      • Baked Goods
      • Breakfast
      • Condiments
      • Dessert
      • Fermented Foods
      • Main Dishes
      • Side Dishes
      • Snacks
      • Soup
    • Keto
    • Vegan
  • Relationships
    • Dating
    • Friendship
    • Parenting
    • Pregnancy & Birth
  • About
  • Contact
  • Write For Us

Nerdy Millennial

Nerdy Millennial

  • Career
    • Entrepreneurship
    • Blogging
      • Social Media
      • SEO and Keyword Research
  • College
  • Arts & Culture
  • Technology
  • Health and Fitness
    • Nutrition
    • Recipes
      • Baked Goods
      • Breakfast
      • Condiments
      • Dessert
      • Fermented Foods
      • Main Dishes
      • Side Dishes
      • Snacks
      • Soup
    • Keto
    • Vegan
  • Relationships
    • Dating
    • Friendship
    • Parenting
    • Pregnancy & Birth
DatingRelationships
Home›Relationships›Dating›Want A Relationship But Don’t Feel Ready? Here’s What To Do

Want A Relationship But Don’t Feel Ready? Here’s What To Do

By Contributing Author
July 1, 2022
106
0

Getting into a new relationship is an exciting thing, of course; you’re about to share your life with someone you could see a future with! But it can also be an incredibly terrifying prospect to face, especially if you feel you’re not ready to dive in head first. 

Maybe you’ve had your heart broken in the past, maybe you just got out of a relationship – if you don’t feel ready to date again, it can cause some very confusing feelings inside you. 

And that’s why it’s a good idea to take pause here. Sure, you don’t have to try dating right now, but if you want to and can’t seem to get yourself to, it’s time for a bit of introspection. To help guide you through that, here are some things to do when you’re keen to tell someone how you feel but you don’t know how to approach.

Give Yourself Some Time

Not knowing how you feel about relationships is a lot more common than you think. You’re not alone in being nervous about forming a real connection; it holds a lot of people back and makes them feel isolated across multiple parts of their life. So as soon as you realise someone wants to get serious with you, simply ask them to give you a bit of time to think about it. 

Having space to get your head straight with your feelings (without outside influence) is a smart strategy to take. It stops you from jumping without looking, and it helps to stop heartbreak in the long run. Take your time, make up your mind, and don’t pressure yourself into it. 

Be Honest About the Way You Feel

When you’re not sure if you want to be in a relationship or not, it’s best to tell the other person straight away. Being honest and clear irons out any kinks straight from the offset, and sets up your connection as one you can rely on. If they understand the way you’re feeling, great! 

But if they’re a little impatient and/or decide they want someone to be sure about them, that’s actually fine too. It’s the fear of losing a potential partner that stops people from admitting this, but staying silent isn’t fair on either of you. Be upfront, take your time to explain, and make sure you listen to their side of things. Maybe you can even work through this together? 

Is There Something Holding You Back?

If you’ve been in a relationship before that’s left its mark on you, it’s worth it to see someone about it. You want to be able to move forward and find happiness again, and honestly you deserve to as well! And when you’re scared something might go similarly wrong in future relationships, it’s best to talk things through and identify how you could be pushing someone away as a defense mechanism. 

Find a therapist you connect with (and don’t be afraid to try out a few!), try out some therapy techniques such as EMDRHealing, and see how much more confident you feel about relationships afterwards. You need to get to a place where you’re comfortable to be vulnerable with someone else and allow yourself to both show and receive love, and that can be next to impossible when you’re going it alone. 

Think About What You Really Want

Maybe the reason you’re unable to commit to a new relationship is simply because you don’t want to be in one. It’s something worth thinking about; the person you’re talking to is someone you really like, and you enjoy going on dates with them, but maybe that’s as far as it goes. 

On the other hand, maybe this is completely wrong and you find you do want to jump at the chance – more power to you! Simply thinking this over has pointed you in the right direction. You don’t want to lose your potential partner, and what you really want from them is plain and simple. You want an honest and loving connection and maybe going exclusive is just the ticket you need. 

Wanting to be in a relationship and actually being at a point where you can be are two different things. Make sure you know what you want before getting someone’s hopes up, always communicate the way you’re feeling, and don’t be afraid to see someone about it. Sometimes there’s trauma we haven’t dealt with holding us back, and that needs dealing with for a happy life! 

No related posts.

You Might Also Like...

  • The Complete Guide to Throwing an Unforgettable Party
    Featured

    The Complete Guide to Throwing an Unforgettable Party

  • 10 Ways to Make Money With AI as a Mental Health Professional
    EntrepreneurshipFeatured

    10 Ways to Make Money With AI as a Mental Health Professional

  • Positive Ways to Navigate Screen Time for Kids
    FeaturedParentingRelationships

    Positive Ways to Navigate Screen Time for Kids

  • How to Get Into Ketosis in 24 Hours
    FeaturedKeto

    How to Get Into Ketosis in 24 Hours: 6 Methods that Actually Work

About Nerdy Millennial

This blog all about millennials sharing their passion, ideas, and expertise about blogging, healthy living, self-improvement, education, parenting, and more!

Interested in contributing? Contact us to pitch your idea or submit an article.

Featured Posts

DatingFeatured

5 Mistakes Guys Make When a Girl Pulls Away

Relationships can be tricky, especially when one person pulls away. It's a situation that can be confusing and emotionally charged, especially if you're the one left behind. It's easy to ...
  • The Impact of Joe Rogan's Controversial Opinions

    The Impact of Joe Rogan’s Controversial Opinions

    By Ian Walsh
    March 16, 2023
  • Top 10 Things Millennials Ask About Managing Money (And The Answers)

    Top 10 Things Millennials Ask About Managing Money (And The Answers)

    By Ian Walsh
    March 12, 2023
  • 6 Ways Virtual Reality is Changing Mental Health Care

    6 Ways Virtual Reality is Changing Mental Health Care

    By Ian Walsh
    March 11, 2023
  • 10 Ways to Make Money With AI as a Mental Health Professional

    10 Ways to Make Money With AI as a Mental Health Professional

    By Contributing Author
    March 11, 2023
  • 5 Essential Characteristics of a Gentleman for the Modern Dating Scene

    5 Essential Characteristics of a Gentleman for the Modern Dating Scene

    By Contributing Author
    January 29, 2023
  • The Ultimate Guide to Travel Photography

    The Ultimate Guide to Travel Photography

    By Contributing Author
    August 26, 2022
  • 6 Steps to Make Money with Teespring in 2022

    How to Make Money on Teespring in 2022

    By Ian Walsh
    August 26, 2022
  • Easy Protein Iced Mocha Coffee

    Easy Protein Iced Mocha Coffee

    By Contributing Author
    August 7, 2022
  • 6 Best Spiritual Books of 2022

    6 Best Spiritual Books of 2022

    By Contributing Author
    August 6, 2022

Join Us on Facebook

Search

  • Home
  • About
  • Contact Us
  • Write For Us
  • Comment Policy
  • Privacy Policy
  • Terms of Use
Manage Cookie Consent
We use cookies to optimize our website and our service.
Functional cookies Always active
The technical storage or access is strictly necessary for the legitimate purpose of enabling the use of a specific service explicitly requested by the subscriber or user, or for the sole purpose of carrying out the transmission of a communication over an electronic communications network.
Preferences
The technical storage or access is necessary for the legitimate purpose of storing preferences that are not requested by the subscriber or user.
Statistics
The technical storage or access that is used exclusively for statistical purposes. The technical storage or access that is used exclusively for anonymous statistical purposes. Without a subpoena, voluntary compliance on the part of your Internet Service Provider, or additional records from a third party, information stored or retrieved for this purpose alone cannot usually be used to identify you.
Marketing
The technical storage or access is required to create user profiles to send advertising, or to track the user on a website or across several websites for similar marketing purposes.
Manage options Manage services Manage vendors Read more about these purposes
View preferences
{title} {title} {title}