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4 Basic Qualities of a Good Doula

By Vanessa Pruitt
August 2, 2012
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As with any care provider, Doulas come in all shapes and sizes. But, every Doula should have certain basic qualities. Your Doula should be able to work well with you and everyone else on your birth team, as well as honor your wishes as best she can.

No amount of Doula training or qualifications can insure that your Doula is a good fit for you, or that she has the right attitude and qualities to be a good Doula.

Your choice in Doula may also be dependent on several other factors, including your Doula's experience in your chosen place of birth.

Here are 4 basic qualities that make a good Doula.

1. Respectful

Your Doula should be respectful to everyone involved with your birth, including you, your partner, your family members, and any other care providers.

During your pregnancy, look out for red flags of a disrespectful attitude, such as making snide remarks about members of your birth team.

2. Understanding

Your Doula should be understanding of you and your ideal birth, and seek to help you achieve it. Even though your Doula may not understand why you want something a certain way, she should not hesitate to help you get what you want.

3. Non-Judgmental

Your Doula should not judge your individual choices for pregnancy and birth. She may offer objective information about your choices, but you should never feel as if she is unhappy with you for the decisions that you make. You are hiring your Doula for support, not judgment.

4. Professional

Your Doula should have a sense of professionalism in whatever birth setting you choose. Not only must they respect all parties involved, but they should be on-time for appointments, dependable, and able to communicate well with a variety of people.

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Not all of these things will be important to you. Some of them may be important to varying degrees. Write down the qualities that are most important to you and evaluate each Doula that you interview based on these qualities.

And, remember to go with your instincts. If you are sensing warning signs about a Doula, it's best to listen to them. You don't want to find out too late, especially in labor, that your Doula is not at all what you wanted.

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  1. MomT2 August, 2012 at 10:29 Reply

    I was glad our doula had PHYSICAL STAMINA, because I was in labor for 36 hours and pushed for 7.5 hours, at home. Everyone on the team worked for more than 24 hours straight. Also, our doula was well above 50 years old, and a yoga instructor. A doula doesn’t have to be young to have the energy to go the distance during a birth. It’s a gift and a talent. But I wouldn’t choose a doula who doesn’t take care of her own physical wellbeing.

    • Vanessa Pruitt3 August, 2012 at 18:23 Reply

      Yes, being able to stay up for long periods of time is a plus for any Doula. Doulas also need breaks, though, and she should be able to judge when is a good time to step away for a bit and get some rest, and be ready to get back to supporting at any moment. This is when a backup Doula can come in handy. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experience.

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